Fredericksburg Parent

September2012

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The truth is counseling can bring out strengths that may have been suppressed by fear and an irrational belief system. thereby fostering a newfound strength for the journey. Together, building and embracing, once the couple grow to maturity they can focus on the tools to build and not to destroy. Most people attribute the need for counseling when important to have the help of a professional when things are well? there are problems. Is it just as DJ: That varies. The role of counseling is to equip individuals to become strong and to be confident in their abilities to problem solve. This is empowerment. When this happens, you can recognize your trigger and why you act the way that you do. When you change your belief system from a negative perspective to a positive one, then you change your character and you change you! What sorts of family and DJ: Depression, fear, anxiety, personality disorders, children caught up in high conflict of divorce, addictions. marriage, situations should someone seek your help for? life change separation, divorce, We are losing the art of dinner and bed time conversation. Are these important and what sorts of things should families discuss during these times to build their bond? the personality construct and maladaptations are formed. When the home is not chaotic, then children learn how to problem solve. The home becomes the first social contact for the kids before their move into the school system and environment. Taking the time to listen, and build that around dinner time (with the TV off) allows the children to talk and helps to build their confidence. Children also have love languages. Some are DJ: Family time is essential. This is where Quality Time and Acts of Service. This time should be made fun, as well as creative, thereby building good memories which will last for a life time. Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, What does it take to build a strong family in the modern era? DJ: Take the time to make things happen. We live in such a fast-paced society that incorporates texting at the kitchen table, laptops and cell phones. Cut these devices off during dinner time and consider instituting a "no tech zone time." A strong family spends time together daily. They encourage one another, hug each other, prefer down of other family members. Children witness when their parents fight and despise being drawn into the middle. Any anger which exists in the family that is not resolved, destroys. Parents are the role models to set the right patterns. Worshiping together and prayer also makes a strong family. Dads leading in daily or weekly devotions shows the love of Christ and His gentleness. talks instead of yelling or the putting Photos of Dr. Jacobs courtesy of Madeline Thornton. www.fredericksburgparent.NET 13

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