The holidays have started! I’m excited and exhausted!
Unfortunately I’m starting them at a serious disadvantage…sick. Several weeks ago I was diagnosed with pneumonia. It just won’t completely leave. When I spoke with the doctor, she said that the most important thing I could do was get rest…lots and lots of rest.
A couple of years ago my response would have been to explain my life…I’m a single mom with 5 kids and rest is not an option. Now I just nod my head and smile. I usually say, “I’ll try.” Which I honestly do. I really do try to get rest…it just doesn’t happen.
It’s like a live a Murphy’s Law life. If I get to bed early, someone wakes up in the middle of the night. If I go to bed late, someone wakes up early. It’s really okay though. I don’t mind my life…I just don’t expect to be well-rested…EVER! So the coughing continues and the sneezing doesn’t cease!
Today as I walked around Costco, I felt like I should apologize to everyone within 10 miles of me. I just can’t stop coughing. I want to say, “I swear it’s not the plague! I’ve been on 3 rounds of antibiotics! I don’t think I’m contagious.”
I can’t begin to tell you how many people advise me to get rest and sleep. Believe me I’d love to, more than I can say. Single parenting is not good for the circles under the eyes or the ache in the joints!
This lingering illness has made me think a lot about how some things are so much more complicated when you’re a single parent. There isn’t anyone to step in and make life easier when you feel really cruddy. It’s pretty challenging to find a place and a time to rest.
I tease my children because every time – and I mean EVERY time – I go upstairs to lie down at least one and usually three children come up to join me. There isn’t any way to sleep with children giggling and moving around! It’s sweet but I sometimes I just really really want to nap!
I realized that I’m not very good about asking for help anymore. The first year of my single parenthood I think I was so overwhelmed that I asked for help more often…or maybe I just had that deer in the headlights look all the time and people felt sorry for me. Now I think I just need to ask for some help.
I believe that it is important that we ask for help. Everyone is busy this holiday season but friends love us and they want to help. So how about asking?
Even if you aren’t sick, there are still times when a friend watching a child or two would be really helpful. Maybe you could even trade babysitting services with another single parent. I don’t mind babysitting because my kids always have fun when friends are over! Everybody’s happy!
I think when I finish typing I might call a friend for some babysitting services. She’d probably be up for a few hours so I could get something done, take a nap, or grab some Christmas gifts! I’m actually excited at the prospect! I’m thinking a comfy blanket, a soft pillow, and a phone turned off, or maybe a mad dash to Target for some Christmas shopping, or maybe I’ll organize my papers…the options are endless!!!
Merry Christmas! May it be healthy, happy and blessed!