Issue link: https://fredparent.uberflip.com/i/1368382
www.FredericksburgParent.NET 13 K R I S T I MAGAZINES REACH PREMIUM AUDIENCES IN HIGHINCOME HOUSEHOLDS* At a greater rate than newspapers, internet, radio or TV * Household income $250K+ (MRI-Simmons, Fall 2019) KRISTI SAYS: Take a breath. Just because your daughter lies right now does not mean she will grow up to be a compulsive liar. I worry about the same thing when my kids go through a lying stage. And it's just that—a stage. They grow out of it, but they also need reminders of the difference between truth and lies, and to understand the consequences when they lie. In our house, the kids need to ask permission to be on their tablets. One day my fourth grader told me he was going to go read a book in his room. It happens a lot, so I didn't think anything of it until I peeked in his room and saw that he was hiding under the blanket. Me: What are you doing under there? Him: Uh, reading… Me: What are you reading? Him: Um... Me: What are you really doing? Him:… Me: You know you'll be in more trouble if you lie? Him: [Hands the tablet out from under the covers] I deal with lies early on, and I start by building trust. When I catch my kids in a lie, I keep my voice calm and give them a lot of chances to tell the truth. I let them know that if they tell the truth, the consequences will be small. But if they lie again, they get in trouble for two things. Instead of consequences, work alongside your daughter to complete the things you asked her to do. Say some- thing like, "I can see you got distracted, let's work on that assignment together so you can turn it in on time." Give her ample opportunity to share the truth even after she lies. Say something like, "I can see you're hav- ing a hard time telling me the whole story. Can we start again from the beginning? This time tell me what hap- pened without the parts that aren't true." Remind her of the importance of being honest. Some of the things I like to ask are, "Did this happen by accident?" or "Did you forget?" It helps to diffuse the situation but also lets them know that I know some- thing happened. I follow up with, "accidents happen, but it's important to tell the truth about them" or "I for- get things sometimes too, so let's do it right now so we don't forget again." Take a moment to praise your daughter when she tells the truth. Make sure she knows how proud you are when she's honest. All children lie, it's part of develop- ment. But they learn to be truthful when it's modeled and reinforced. • crafts • face painting • trucks • fi re trucks • ambulances • motorcycles Touch a Truck and #MoveOver Safety Event Dominion Raceway Saturday, May 15, 2021 10:30am to 3pm