Fredericksburg Parent

February 2020

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www.FredericksburgParent.NET 17 OUTWARD APPEARANCES A tidy house, a perfectly decorated home, an amazing wardrobe, all organic, home-cooked meals, the perfect mar- riage, smart, athletic, creative children, and a partridge in a pear tree. We want it all and we want it to be perfect, or at least appear that way. This picture is lovely, but it is not a realistic, reachable goal. It's easy to get caught up in what our families looks like to others. It does not matter if your children wear perfectly coordinating outfits. Is your child is dressed in weather appropriate clothing? Great. Does it match? It's your lucky day. Social media puts so much pressure on us to keep up with what we believe others are doing. I have a secret for you, Pinterest is not real life and what is posted on Facebook is typically the best of what is going on in reality. Embrace the fact that no one is perfect and nobody's expecting you to be. WHAT IF'S Parents often worry about things that haven't even hap- pened yet. What if he gets sick? What if she falls and gets hurt? What if I forget something important? What if he doesn't make the team? What if's are not worth the energy they demand. Acknowledge they're unnecessary and decide not to waste time on them. Face the problems in front of you rather than worrying about issues that do not exist. COMPARISONS "Don't compare yourself to other parents. Your family is unique. Your circumstances are unique. It would be like com- paring apples and oranges," says Lacey Rodriguez, "Do the best you can for your family and forget the rest." Comparing yourself to other parents is never a good idea. Your parent- ing style for your children will always be different from oth- ers but doesn't mean it is bad. Another pitfall is comparing your children to their siblings or other children their age. Each child has their own personality and will develop at their own rate. If you feel your concerns are valid, consult your child's doctor for peace of mind. MISTAKES Every parent makes mistakes and it is easy to spend time worrying about what should have been done differently. The past cannot be changed and although not easy to do, we must let go of things we cannot change. We can learn from our mistakes and continue to do our best in the future. Parents have permission to let go of past mistakes and teach their children to do the same. CONTROL I am a recovering control freak. With each child we added to our family, I was worn down a little more. When our triplets arrived, it finally dawned on me that I am not in control. Once I realized (and accepted) this fact, a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Yes, my husband and I are still in charge of the household, but I cannot control what happens in life. It's a roller coaster, instead of trying to steer, throw your arms up in the air and enjoy the ride. As parents, if we can learn to let go of these worries, we can feel relief. Remember that each family is unique and each parent handles situations differently. It's easier to relax and enjoy your family more when you can let it all flow. CampS Best Best Around Around J O I N U S F O R S P R I N G B R E A K C A M P M A R C H 1 6 T H - 2 0 T H Half day soccer camp (9AM to Noon at Embrey Mill) Extend to full day (Noon to 4PM) with Jeff Rouse Swim & Sport Center *Before and After Care available* SOCCER! SWIM! GYM! SKILL BUILDING! BEST OF ALL, FUN! Register at C O M I N G S O O N . . . S U M M E R C A M P !

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