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Is there any wonder toddlers have such difficulty
adjusting to a new baby? This is a life-changing
event. The months of being told it would happen
does not compare with reality. Figuring out the way
through this transition takes acute awareness and
understanding of his parents, as well as guidance
and patience.
Just as pouring water into a well to ���prime the
pump��� brings forth more water, ���PRIME��� a toddler
for the changes a newborn brings. Prepare for the
reality of a new baby: include him in discussions,
rehearse the changes, and include your toddler in
the baby���s life. Model a loving attitude. Keeping
calm amid changes causes less stress for a toddler.
Expect ... Toddler Behavior. Allow him to be and act
like one while keeping limits consistent.
Give toddler and sibling some chaperoned bonding time. Assisting with care, holding, kisses, soft
touches and give the child time to adjust and learn
to love his new sibling. Continued strengthening of
parental/toddler bonds and encouraging brother/
sister bonds will help cross the bridge from jealousy
to fondness.
Elaine Stone, mother of three, lives in Spotsylvania.
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